Self Love - Day 2

I knew it will be hard day, as I will spend most of my time in the transport. From Dublin to Liberec via Prague, it is the day when you wake up in 6 a.m. and at 5 p.m. you can say : DONE.
I travel a lot, and this is what make it actual more difficult. My memory is playing tricks and  instead to enjoy the travel, I see in each situation some potential troubles (like last year in Mumbai aeroport, or do you remember when we went to Barcelona...and so on).
This is one of disturbances of the mind, the memory that don t let us see the situation as it is, but in the prisme of our own experiences. It makes me live thousands of catastrophic movies...that usualy don t happen.

So...I decided that in the spirit of Self Love and in order to treat me well today, I will concentrate on the only think:

POSITIVE THINKING. 
How does it work? You need awareness. You need to be able to observe your yourself, your thoughts, and catch them BEFORE they burst out as a negativity. And when you catch them, you cultivate the opposite. In stead of tell you: "Ah, again I get into the longest queue, why this happen only to me? I m sure the guy will find some problem with my passport or leave for lunch..." you talk to you in opposite way: "Everything is fine, the queue will go smoothly and we are on time."


I spent more less day today to practice. Between cars, aeroports,  plane, passport controls, waiting for luggage and another 2 hours of driving to the house of my father, there were a lot of space for observing. And I realized that I m quiet negative, critical and dark in my mind...so today treat of self love was IMPORTANT. I changed the whole perception of the day, from grey and rainy with darkness to gray and rainy with smile and love at the end of the day...Try:) 
You worth it!

Self Love Day 1

Yesterday speaking with my "Sister" from India, we decided to work together on our Self Love. Of course that since one and half year I discuss the topic with my yoga teacher and I work on it, but with my friends, with my students and recently with my family I see that it is one quality that is tremendously missing .

It seems from outside that the women suffer more then men, but I dare to say the difference is just that the women show it more and talk eventually about, while men are closed to the subject. It does not mean they don t suffer or they suffer less, at the contrary!

So here we go, for 28 days (I love the number) we will share the ideas and tips for spend the day with our Self and pamper us OUT and IN.

DAY 1:

SPEND TIME
 with your mother. This is where we started our this time journey. This is our point of departure.
You don t have to be physically with her, but it can help:)  Sit quietly, with your spine straight, close your eyes and breath deeply. After while, imagine your mom as a little girl, lost, crying, alone. What would you do? Take her in your arms and hug her for while, to calm her cry and make her safe and loved. Then do exactly same thing with you. See yourself as a little girl, lost and crying. Hug yourself, and give you all Love and Reassurance you can.

FORGIVE.
To yourself, to your mom . The forgiveness is creating space that we can fill with Love. Keeping our grudge is suffocating and the first person to suffer is US. In case you don t feel the need for forgiveness, because your relationship with your mom is outstanding, just skip the FORGIVENESS part and go directly to the next step.:)

SEND LOVE.
 As we created the space for it, more or less, we concentrate on the area of our body where the heart is. (Heart chakra). Feel the warm sensation over there, imagine the door of your heart opening and the love is just pouring out of there to all your body, out of your body, and towards to your mom (and whoever else, but don t forget it is the moment for you and your mother).

LET GO
Now, just let go. See your mom leaving you, with smile, smile to her, wave to her, let her go with Love. You can spend more time with her again and again, how you did today. I always see her like going on the boat, it is beautiful weather, we smile and we let us go mutually. It let the space, and it keeps Love.


It looks like piece of cake, it is not always true. I m spending my second week with my mom, and it is big deal for us, as we did not talk for 9 years in the past and our relationship start to get "warmer" only thanks to yoga and the teaching of my teacher 2 years ago.

Observing my mom in difficult environment, out of her comfort zone, coming with me to Dublin, our new city, and trying so much to help me, that it becomes irritating by moment, I understood that she is just lacking Self Love and Self esteem. Her Fear and Guilt being bad mother are just mine Fear and Guilt  of being bad mother and my daughter is the mirror to my fear as much as I m mirror probably to my mom...there is pattern, and somebody has to break it down in order to HEAL US. If I can forgive my mom, I can forgive to myself, and if I can forgive myself, I can start to love myself! Wow:)

So, what is your pattern? What is your Fear and Guilt? Is your mom involved somehow?

I wish you wonderful Day 1...and a load of Love!

Home sweet home

Our first week in Dublin, it is done. The arrival was shocking. After beautiful hot Barcelona and yoga conference, we landed in the 14 degrees, under cold rain. My deep memory of that moment is:
me, staying in the middle of parking of rent a car, under rain, with 4 luggages, in ballerinas and shivering of cold. Hm. New home...

I survived to my first drive on the left side. I m still moving a lot my right hand and in the moment of stress I m trying to touch something with my right, but in the deep mindfulness I m ok, my brain-body connection can handle the deep core changments:)

The delivery of boxes was another shock, 315 boxes...seriously? What we do with all this????  But Sunday we were able to have our first nice family and friend lunch home. It seemed "normal life" again, after nearly 2 months of leaving our Mumbai apartment.

Adjustment will take some time, but I have to say that Dublin is easy city and dubliners are incredible cool people. Nobody is honking, insulting, screaming on us or turning the back to our question. I would say...Dubliners are Spanish of the North! I love it here...and I feel the love just flows.
My dear Mumabikars...it feels just like when you have your second baby. You don t stop to love your first, neither you love him less. You just multiply your love so you have as much for both :)
Looooove
Mi